Is the Human Specie Predominately Monogamous?

Monogamy, Infidelity and Affairs!

Is the human species predominately monogamous?

I know the hot gist of DNA testing and infidelity in women that was a fallout of the banker wife who was insinuated to have caused her husband's death after telling him he isn't the father of her children is going cold. However, the after effect lingers on severely. While many people have said a thing or two on this issue, I wanted to dig deep and explore the concept of monogamy, infidelity and affairs. 

As a couples therapist with an extra speciality in treating affairs and trauma in relationships, I know that affairs form a significant part of many marriages' issues, but are affairs that rampant and are we predominately monogamous or polygamous people. What does the science say?

Anthropologist let us know that there are three types of monogamy: social monogamy, reproductive or genetic monogamy and sexual monogamy. Social monogamy means pairing with just one partner, reproductive or genetic monogamy is reproducing with just one partner and sexual monogamy is having sex with only one partner. 

So someone can be in social monogamy but not be sexually monogamous. He or she pairs up with a mate and raises children but still have flings. So a cheating husband who detours for a romantic romp yet returns home in time to tuck in the kids at night would be considered socially monogamous. This same man may be reproductively monogamous if he never fathers any child/children outside of his paired mate or mates in a serially monogamous relationship. In contrast, a husband who marries and has sex with only his wife for the rest of his life is sexually monogamous

On the other hand, polygamy is defined as marriage or union between one person and two or more spouses simultaneously. It exists in two main forms: polygyny, where one man is married to several women, and polyandry, where one woman is married to several men.

United Nations World Fertility Report (2003) lets us know that 89% of all people get married by the age of 49. This means that 89% of people pair with one partner by the age of 49, showing that social monogamy is overwhelmingly the norm in our species.

In humans, extra-pair paternity studies done in six cultures (USA, France, Switzerland, UK, Mexico, and the Yanomamo Indians) and two review papers reviewing 28 studies found 96 to 98% genetic monogamy. However, this rate seems to be lowered in a few Asia countries such as Thailand. This data also shows that genetic monogamy is overwhelmingly the norm in our species. (I sincerely wished there is data for Nigeria and the African continent.) 

The data on sexual non-monogamy is far more mixed and not reflective of the general population. For example, no public data checking across cultures or countries. Although using the USA rates from convenience sampling, the rate varies from 15 to 43% of men and 10 to 15% of women being sexually unfaithful throughout their marriages. In one study of 50 pre-industrial cultures, there was no significant difference between men and women in the amount of sexual infidelity. The general indication is that majority of men and women remain sexually monogamous.

The jury is still out on this though, I guess. 

Polygamy is rare around the world and actually confined to a few regions - Asia and Africa. Only 2% of the world population live in polygamous homes. However, Sub-Saharan African has an average of 11%, with Burkina Faso having the highest percentage at 36% and Nigeria been 28%.  

Polygamy spread in the world

Although scientists agree that classifying humans as monogamous or polygamous is difficult, the evidence shows that we are overwhelmingly a monogamous specie. And although we are overwhelmingly a monogamous specie, affair and infidelity still happen. What constitutes an Affair? What are the science-based advantages of Committed Social and Sexual Monogamy? Are some people genetically promiscuous? Why do individuals intentionally or unintentionally ruin their relationships? And other questions will be answered in other parts of these series. Watch out!



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